Drive Into Awareness One Thought At A Time

Sunk Cost Fallacy: Why You Stay on the Wrong Train (and How to Overcome It)

“Grainy, faded photo of a person sitting alone on a train station bench watching a train approach, symbolizing the sunk cost fallacy and staying on the wrong train.”

It usually starts with a sentence that sounds sensible. “I’ve already put so much into this.” I hear it in therapy rooms. I see it in survey data. I catch it in my own choices, too. If you read this, you’ll leave with three things: a name for the pattern that makes staying feel safer […]

Emotionally Detached People: Signs, Causes, and How to Communicate

I keep coming back to the same moment. Someone finally says the thing they have been holding in for weeks, and the person across from them goes quiet in that particular way that feels like a door closing. If you read this, you will walk away able to name the pattern you are stuck in […]

Rebuilding Motivation After Burnout: A Realistic January Reset

Minimal winter desk by a window with a mug, notebook, and pen, representing rebuilding motivation after burnout in January.

And it is usually around the first or second week of January when the panic really sets in. You are looking at a mountain of “New Year, New You” expectations while your body is still stuck in a state of deep physiological exhaustion. Reading this matters because if you try to force a traditional January […]

Attachment-Informed Relationship Checklist: Name, Regulate, Ask

Relationship Check-In checklist with overlay text Name it Regulate Ask small on a desk with pen tea and phone

I keep coming back to the same moment, the one that happens right before you repeat yourself. The message you send. The tone you choose. The silence you slip into. If you read this, you will leave with three things you can actually use in real time across your relationships in 2026: you will be […]

Can My Attachment Style Change

Sometimes people do not come to this question out of curiosity. They come out of exhaustion. The same relationship pattern keeps repeating, even when the people change. After a while, something in you starts to wonder if it is fate, wiring, or memory. Read this if you have ever felt the quiet dread of hearing […]

Disorganized Attachment: Why Do I Want Love but Push It Away?

Mother and teenage daughter sitting at a kitchen table, showing emotional distance that can reflect disorganized attachment and push-pull connection.

Right when they show up. Right when the message is kind, or the feedback is calm. Or a friend actually follows through. If that flip is familiar, you should read this because it gives you something you can actually use in the moment: a name for the pattern, a clearer sense of what triggers the […]

Avoidant Attachment: Why Do I Pull Away When Someone Gets Close?

Person inside a transparent bubble reaching toward another hand, representing avoidant attachment and pulling away when someone gets close.

Because that is usually the moment people start blaming themselves and or blaming everyone else. And the story in the head gets loud. Fast. If you’ve landed here because you often pull away when someone gets close, this is worth reading for one reason. It can give you a clearer explanation of what is happening […]

Anxious Attachment: Why Do I Feel So Anxious in Relationships?

Illustration showing anxious attachment and relationship anxiety across partners, family, friends, and parenting.

Half the time, it starts after something small. A reply that comes later than usual. A slightly flatter tone. A plan that stays unconfirmed just long enough for your brain to begin writing the ending. And it’s not only romantic. It can be your friend leaving you to read. Your sibling is not calling back. […]