Attachment-Informed Relationship Checklist: Name, Regulate, Ask
I keep coming back to the same moment, the one that happens right before you repeat yourself. The message you send. The tone you choose. The silence you slip into. If you read this, you will leave with three things you can actually use in real time across your relationships in 2026: you will be […]
Can My Attachment Style Change
Sometimes people do not come to this question out of curiosity. They come out of exhaustion. The same relationship pattern keeps repeating, even when the people change. After a while, something in you starts to wonder if it is fate, wiring, or memory. Read this if you have ever felt the quiet dread of hearing […]
Fearful Avoidant Attachment: Why You Crave Connection but Step Back When It Gets Real
Because the flip keeps happening, right in the moment you thought things were finally okay. If you find yourself in a loop where closeness appears and then something within you tightens, this is worth reading. You should walk away with three things you can use immediately: a name for the pattern that matches what you […]
Is Gen Z Really Selfish? Gen Z Mental Health, Therapy Speak, and Emotional Boundaries
I keep watching the same thing happen in different relationships. Someone uses therapy speak, the conversation ends fast, and the awkward part begins. The silence. The second-guessing. The feeling that nobody agreed on what just happened. If you read this, you will leave with a name for that moment, you will see the flip point […]
Disorganized Attachment: Why Do I Want Love but Push It Away?
Right when they show up. Right when the message is kind, or the feedback is calm. Or a friend actually follows through. If that flip is familiar, you should read this because it gives you something you can actually use in the moment: a name for the pattern, a clearer sense of what triggers the […]
Avoidant Attachment: Why Do I Pull Away When Someone Gets Close?
Because that is usually the moment people start blaming themselves and or blaming everyone else. And the story in the head gets loud. Fast. If you’ve landed here because you often pull away when someone gets close, this is worth reading for one reason. It can give you a clearer explanation of what is happening […]
Anxious Attachment: Why Do I Feel So Anxious in Relationships?
Half the time, it starts after something small. A reply that comes later than usual. A slightly flatter tone. A plan that stays unconfirmed just long enough for your brain to begin writing the ending. And it’s not only romantic. It can be your friend leaving you to read. Your sibling is not calling back. […]
What to Leave Behind in 2025: A Psychologist’s Reflection (Without the Guilt)
Around this time of year, I start hearing the same kind of story in different voices. Someone describes a small choice, like not replying right away, cancelling a plan, taking a day off. Nothing dramatic. And then it lands. Their face changes. The guilt hits first, then the story hits. If you read this, you […]
Secure Attachment in Relationships: What It Actually Looks Like in Real Life
If you’ve ever watched yourself make the next move from panic and then regret it, the extra text, the cold silence, the over-explaining, the “fine,” this will give you something more usable than a label. The point isn’t to become a certain kind of person. It’s to recognize the pattern when the nervous system gets […]
Attachment Style: What It Is and Why It Affects Your Relationships
Sometimes it is not the fight, or the late reply, or the “we need to talk” text. It’s what happens inside you before you even decide what it means. I have watched people come into therapy convinced they just “pick the wrong partners,” but the same moment keeps repeating: the tight chest, the sudden certainty, […]